Friday, January 11, 2008

The Enneagram...

Enneagram

I'm a Type Seven – an Enthusiast. The Seven is a person who wants to constantly have new experiences, who wants to be constantly exploring and finding joy in new and simple things in life. The Enneagram Web site has this to say about the Type 7:

Basic Fear: Of being deprived and in pain
Basic Desire: To be satisfied and content—to have their needs fulfilled
Key Motivations: Want to maintain their freedom and happiness, to avoid missing out on worthwhile experiences, to keep themselves excited and occupied, to avoid and discharge pain.


It goes on to describe Enthusiasts at their healthy levels and at their unhealthy levels. I'll just post a bit and highlight what I feel like describes me best:

Level 1 (At Their Best): Assimilate experiences in depth, making them deeply grateful and appreciative for what they have. Become awed by the simple wonders of life: joyous and ecstatic. Intimations of spiritual reality, of the boundless goodness of life.

Level 2: Highly responsive, excitable, enthusiastic about sensation and experience. Most extroverted type: stimuli bring immediate responses—they find everything invigorating. Lively, vivacious, eager, spontaneous, resilient, cheerful.

Level 3: Easily become accomplished achievers, generalists who do many different things well: multi-talented. Practical, productive, usually prolific, cross-fertilizing areas of interest.

Level 4: As restlessness increases, want to have more options and choices available to them. Become adventurous and "worldly wise," but less focused, constantly seeking new things and experiences: the sophisticate, connoisseur, and consumer. Money, variety, keeping up with the latest trends important.

Level 5: Unable to discriminate what they really need, become hyperactive, unable to say "no" to themselves, throwing self into constant activity. Uninhibited, doing and saying whatever comes to mind: storytelling, flamboyant exaggerations, witty wise-cracking, performing. Fear being bored: in perpetual motion, but do too many things—many ideas but little follow through.


I admit I can see both my strengths and weaknesses in that description. I didn't post any of the "really unhealthy" levels (7, 8, 9), but I don't see much of myself in those anyway. In the Type 7 description by Richard Rohr, he says, "The Seven is the 'eternal child.' Peter Pan could be their patron saint, or Mercury, the messenger of the gods wearing his winged shoes, with which he disappears into a wonderful world of fantasy... Sevens are curious. It's as if what they already know or have is never enough. They need change, stimulation, new experiences... Sevens are not specialists, but 'generalists.' They always have several irons in the fire, because they always want to leave all their options open and unconsciously want to avoid committing themselves too deeply to a thing or a person... because if you totally devote yourself, your own limits might become visible – and that would be too painful. Thus many Sevens master the art of bluffing; they are all-around diletantes and evoke the impression of being many-faceted in their gifts, of knowing all about everything. A handful of facts, cleverly combined, sometimes suffice to create a comprehensive image. They often have a hard time tying themselves down to one career."

Wow. Has Richard Rohr been spying on me? I really can't add anything in my own words that's better than the description above. I love new experiences and find joy in them - but it can be taken to a fault, too, to where I'm bored if I don't have constant new stimulation and I'm afraid to commit to any one thing that might limit my experiences.

3 comments:

seg said...

I mean ... I basically HAVE to comment, right?

And, I'm unabashedly going to be me in this (meaning, that I like the Enneagram) ...

So, you're a SEVEN. I get what you're saying, but the "combining the THREE and the SEVEN" doesn't necessarily work. BUT ... you totally picked up on this amazing thread that hints at some differences between the THREE and the SEVEN. Seriously, this has totally helped me understand both the THREE and the SEVEN better!!! ...

Ah, alright, I think there's a couple things going on.

#1. We live in a Type THREE country. Success it *IT* by all standards in the US of A. Even I, as a FIVE, feel the pull of the THREE on me b/c it's just ... well, there.

So, totally acknowledge that pull towards success as defined by our culture ... and 'let go' of the success-driven mentality. Very cool -- and even Matthew Fox said it's a dissatisfied life when we can't meet our own expectations. The trick is ... our expectations aren't too great ... it's that they fall SHORT of perfection/holiness/Jesus.

#2. "Both Threes and Sevens are aggressive or assertive types and both are interested in enjoying different aspects of success."

So you as a SEVEN enjoy success in a SEVEN way ... it doesn't mean that your half a THREE b/c the THREE's are all about success.

Seven's avoidance is pain (which, could be the pain that comes from failing). Three's avoidance is failure and being humiliated in any way. I think both are similar if you're working in a success-driven culture framework.

This is kinda weird, but read through it to the heart and I think it helps to see some of the differences between the THREE and the SEVEN:

"Last, one of the simplest ways to distinguish these two types is by marking the difference in their overall emotional tone and style. Average Threes are cool, in control, projecting the impression that they are perfectly together, with no emotional or personal problems. So convinced of their superiority, they become shameless braggarts and show-offs, arrogantly looking down on others. By contrast, Sevens have many more rough edges, rarely seeming as perfect or as coolly self-contained as Threes. For better or worse, Sevens do not censor themselves and can be funny, outspoken, vulgar, ill mannered, and outrageous–allowing far less polished behavior and attitudes to be displayed for public view."

Anyway, that's all I've got.

Tim said...

Thanks for the insight... it's good to get it from a seasoned Enneagram vet.

I agree with what you're saying about us living in a #3-style country... and I do think that has an affect on all of us.

I must not have the part of the article that compares THREEs and SEVENs with the passages you quoted (I'm assuming that's more Rohr?) – it's either that or I've just missed it. I'm going to read that and mull it over some more before I comment on it.

seg said...

yeah, i got the comparison bit from the 'members only' section of this site:

www.enneagraminstitute.com

it's not really a membership, haha ... you just sign up for a password or something. pretty cool, though.